tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-48214540662217576542024-02-19T04:49:01.427-08:00Fox on the Runvera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.comBlogger848125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-44428708920695824262017-01-03T00:56:00.000-08:002017-01-03T00:56:26.230-08:00Goodbye GoodbyeWell. <br />
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2016, huh? Jesus Christ. This year kicked my ass and then handed it me. <br />
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I hesitated to write because so much of my year was consumed by ppd, and I never wanted my baby girl to read about that and ever feel like she could possibly be the cause of any darkness or pain. It wasn't her fault. It wasn't my fault, either. Sometimes I wish I'd written it down, for other mamas, or for my daughter, for someday, if she is suffering too and she needs it. Maybe I can still drum up some version of the story eventually. We'll see. <br />
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Anyway, 2016. I've been depressed, and broke as fucking fuck, and still plugging away doggedly at my accounting classes. I have one more semester to go; the end is finally in sight. We moved all our stuff twice, were technically homeless for two months in between. I drove to Washington State with my kids during the summer and spent three weeks with my people there. I quit Facebook and I started running again, probably my best decisions of the year. And then there was the election and its heartbreaking result. You guys. YOU GUYS. Seriously, I can't even. I'm still sick about it.<br />
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I've mulled over many posts that never made it to the screen. I'm sorry but I'm not that sorry. I just couldn't do it, that's all. I'll always have a special place in my heart for this blog. My little corner of the internet, where I worked through grief, and shared light when I could, and made some lovely online friends. Crafting a post can be therapeutic, but I clearly don't have time or energy for it right now. I'm overwhelmed by big and real problems and I'm very lonely, to be honest, and the season I'm in calls for more direct interactions. So. All this to say: Do you want to be my friend in real life? <br />
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I don't use FB anymore, but I do have the Messenger app on my phone. I don't always have my phone in my hand or my pocket, but it's usually in the same room at least. I'll message you back as soon as I can. I'll send you a picture of my kids being adorable. Or terrible. I'll send you memes if that's your jam. I'll send you something real in the mail, maybe, sometime, you never know. I will meet up with you in real life, if you want to, if we happen to be in the same area at the same time and I can get away. I'm down. <br />
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<b>Here are some ways you can find me:</b><br />
MESSENGER: m.me/vkhadley<br />
INSTAGRAM: verakate<br />
TWITTER: vera_kate<br />
ETSY SHOP: verakatehadley<br />
EMAIL: twirlkitten@yahoo.com<br />
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I wish you all the best and I thank you for reading my thoughts here and being a support to me that way, even if you never said a word. <br />
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Much love and much light and much hope. Goodbye for now.<br />
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xoxo, vera kate <br />
vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-89221654214300060722016-02-11T00:34:00.000-08:002016-03-19T23:04:41.944-07:00Hello HelloSo it's 2016 and my son is 2 years old (WHAT?!) and my baby is teething and I'm back up to full time units at school and still working as well and it's been about 70* around here which is lovely after all the cold and storms and my sister came to visit briefly last weekend and it was so so hard to let her go back home. <br />
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How are you?<br />
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-- even though you spend a good portion of every day telling him not to eat things he finds on the floor -- because like I said, it was a really delicious, and it seems a shame to waste it.vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-20925920872553773042015-11-09T08:32:00.000-08:002015-11-28T13:30:06.728-08:00things we call our babyBeauty<br />
Bright Eyes<br />
Flower<br />
Gorgeous<br />
Littlest<br />
Littlefoot<br />
Little Miss<br />
Lovie<br />
Peanut<br />
Peanut Pie<br />
Poop Machine<br />
Precious<br />
Pudding<br />
Pumpkin<br />
Smalls<br />
Shnookie #2<br />
Snoogle<br />
Special<br />
Squidge<br />
Sugar<br />
Sweetest<br />
Tiny<br />
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Mostly we call her Tiny. <br />
vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-45731780468444166582015-10-30T22:30:00.000-07:002015-10-30T22:30:39.318-07:00wave of lightI couldn't bring myself to participate on the 15th, not with a new baby in my belly, so close to being born. Too sad to let it all the way in. But yesterday I remembered, and I sat and felt, for a little while, and I lit my pine tree candle and watched it burn and listened to that song that still makes me almost-cry. They are only a little bit here now, those two, and mostly Somewhere Else. But I remember. How imposssibly small they were. The fear and the beauty and the violence and the love. The abruptness of their start and stop. The metallic tang of blood. The pain that threatened to tear me apart but instead began to show me I am whole.<br />
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Life is a reckless, passionate lover, and death is a quiet and patient old friend, and I'm not sorry. I'm not sorry anymore. vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-43032813548952079422015-10-29T11:11:00.001-07:002015-10-29T11:11:49.763-07:00Phoenix Rowan<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgzlxH15psuavhENJ2z21c5WE1nrt2VRfzyUnEEUCh-48mtL-7lHun1lduChcvLyXwvmfFutDHYKs8v7JV321uJOE848qhobFPEhbFnD_UHlsWIWblAL-xGXVj4S76KERmBP067Mr8OwVo2/s1600/IMG_5567.JPG" imageanchor="1" ><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgzlxH15psuavhENJ2z21c5WE1nrt2VRfzyUnEEUCh-48mtL-7lHun1lduChcvLyXwvmfFutDHYKs8v7JV321uJOE848qhobFPEhbFnD_UHlsWIWblAL-xGXVj4S76KERmBP067Mr8OwVo2/s400/IMG_5567.JPG" height="280" width="280"/></a> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhY9CDaFWCQKrGMtpU-3kPYmIsL6LbQ_pUD2yVEtS8QiYwIXugryf_GyeAVzMWENS0hZpWHIXmZr2mFZTy0JjDenJDFwKA3dl1YLmjOiuQqaS4VLxSCtzS1d8TKxbRh_jayPhvM6E9mdtMz/s1600/IMG_5611.JPG" imageanchor="1" ><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhY9CDaFWCQKrGMtpU-3kPYmIsL6LbQ_pUD2yVEtS8QiYwIXugryf_GyeAVzMWENS0hZpWHIXmZr2mFZTy0JjDenJDFwKA3dl1YLmjOiuQqaS4VLxSCtzS1d8TKxbRh_jayPhvM6E9mdtMz/s400/IMG_5611.JPG" height="280" width="280" /></a> <br />
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJNtGpcU-52v1vytW_i34p8CHjnNe_YJOQvmJ0PTr4owerFei-Zc7iWzM1o6ZFT24cjbbWOWzGEzXFmAmszM3hdo2qJDjQbZfgzcCUQGFoS2sjLuXvW6-bRWTZXREsWBjIAs2rGn7yY4mX/s1600/IMG_5609.JPG" imageanchor="1" ><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJNtGpcU-52v1vytW_i34p8CHjnNe_YJOQvmJ0PTr4owerFei-Zc7iWzM1o6ZFT24cjbbWOWzGEzXFmAmszM3hdo2qJDjQbZfgzcCUQGFoS2sjLuXvW6-bRWTZXREsWBjIAs2rGn7yY4mX/s400/IMG_5609.JPG" height="280" width="280" /></a> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgQqtyXs2AoLp3JsXMRjmjbwFdIvDUi9JUleYkG2-2N6qDiNZzWVjdsSgwqwa9BEGtzScLfV3Ov3SpT5dEEPrjVPkFtvV2g7QMR-DmaibQOnswik6nEByMpdeEWlVouAAl9P6QYwt7T7dS_/s1600/IMG_5608.JPG" imageanchor="1" ><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgQqtyXs2AoLp3JsXMRjmjbwFdIvDUi9JUleYkG2-2N6qDiNZzWVjdsSgwqwa9BEGtzScLfV3Ov3SpT5dEEPrjVPkFtvV2g7QMR-DmaibQOnswik6nEByMpdeEWlVouAAl9P6QYwt7T7dS_/s400/IMG_5608.JPG" height="280" width="280"/></a><br />
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My fierce little beauty, born 10/20/2015. Labored pretty slowly for most of the day but after my water finally broke I went from 5-10 centimeters in about 40 minutes, pushed for 11 minutes, and she was here. We are in love.vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-74576745629945414772015-10-01T19:49:00.001-07:002015-10-13T02:03:18.167-07:00AWOLOh gosh, I haven't posted since July??! Sorry, anyone who still shows up here!!<br />
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So, updates: We moved a couple of weeks ago, and we're almost settled in. I don't know for how long exactly, but at least I know we have a place to bring the baby home to. The kids' room turned out pretty cute, I like to sit in there sometimes even though it's tiny. Phil is working again and he really likes his new school. I am having early labor symptoms, but I'm far enough along that it's not worrisome and she can come whenever she wants to now. Hunter has become very protective of me and is also noticing babies everywhere we go--so maybe he has figured out what's up after all! We do tell him often that baby sister will be here soon, and that certain things in the house are for her. The other morning I found him cuddling his baby doll on his shoulder with no prompting; I think he's going to be an excellent big brother. :)<br />
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I'm so happy it's finally October... I am more than ready to meet this sweet little baby and settle into our new routine. I can't wait for us all to get to know each other, and I'm really looking forward to our first Christmas as a family of four. I feel like as soon as she's here, we'll be complete. <br />
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vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-27900406111930307952015-07-20T22:46:00.002-07:002015-07-20T22:46:18.281-07:00ouchThings have been pretty stressful for the last month or so. Phil's school was shut down and it turns out the board was very corrupt; he has not been paid and likely will not be paid his last two paychecks for the year. We had to move out of our apartment this past weekend, but it's a temporary situation so most of our stuff is in storage and we will have to move again in a few weeks. I'm six months pregnant and exhausted. Oh, and Hunter has not slept through the night in weeks. So that's fun. <br />
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A few more days of summer classes left and then I'll have a couple of weeks off and hopefully can get some rest. We need to look for a new apartment but it seems a little pointless right now since we don't have the money for rent or deposits. Anyways. That's what's up with us. Thankfully Phil did finally find a new job, so that's a relief. I know things will work out, they always do, but I wish life was not so hard sometimes. vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-37511498817662703912015-05-28T20:37:00.002-07:002015-05-28T20:37:34.004-07:00ready or not...here she comes! Our (sweet surprise) baby girl, EDD 10/25/2015<br />
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vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-2785451900842591382015-05-10T12:40:00.000-07:002015-05-10T14:22:12.300-07:00Happy Mother's Day<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqv6e9-nT8YxH2qqttyoiCBsqmPhqYsbtyK68jJXiCh6_DNKNwpbL_DXjFA53zjvEvybzpjwNr8EqXkKWisMHRv2vs2Db9AkPcWbl1dBiUgcKwqvXASdcm38FiwFUavPtanlAb0hvLYGpw/s1600/IMG_7168+b.jpg" imageanchor="1" ><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqv6e9-nT8YxH2qqttyoiCBsqmPhqYsbtyK68jJXiCh6_DNKNwpbL_DXjFA53zjvEvybzpjwNr8EqXkKWisMHRv2vs2Db9AkPcWbl1dBiUgcKwqvXASdcm38FiwFUavPtanlAb0hvLYGpw/s640/IMG_7168+b.jpg" height="410" width="550"/></a><br />
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To all the mamas holding their babies close today, and all the ones who only wish they could. My heart is with you. xoxo -- veravera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-38314675680146668182015-04-28T09:51:00.001-07:002015-04-28T09:51:08.490-07:00a poemby Hunter Atlas<br />
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My kid is a genius ;)<br />
vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-76545064057380950772015-04-15T10:41:00.001-07:002015-04-15T10:45:43.763-07:00there's simply no accounting for tasteThe other day we were getting ready to go to the store, so I asked Hunter to find his shoes and pick out some socks. I wasn't sure if he would actually listen, but he went right to it. After much deliberation (throwing many pairs of clearly inadequate socks on the floor) he brought me his too-big turquoise Christmas socks with little penguins wearing Santa hats on them. Smiling hugely, he backed into my lap so I could help him put them on, and I did. I let him wear them even though they didn't match his outfit and even though it is April and nowhere near Christmas. <br />
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And maybe it seems silly to you, like a non-story basically, but I felt so good about it, like I had won at something, because my mom would NEVER have let me wear those socks in April or maybe at all. But he had done exactly what I asked him to do, and there was absolutely no good reason to make him think he was wrong. Just because I wouldn't wear Santa penguin socks in April doesn't mean he shouldn't wear them if he feels like it. <br />
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Autonomy is so precious, you guys. I can't even tell you. For your own sake I hope you don't quite understand what I'm talking about. I'm confident that Hunter won't, and I'm glad. <br />
vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-47502424763064932302015-04-03T22:46:00.000-07:002015-04-15T10:50:29.590-07:00repercussions IIPerhaps you simply have made us <br />
a creature that reaches<br />
always just a little higher<br />
and always <br />
just a little too far<br />
you know we want more, and better<br />
and we want to be more, and better<br />
and it is our weakness <br />
and our strength<br />
and I think you know. <br />
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I think you know. <br />
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vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-57635152709257266722015-03-16T20:36:00.002-07:002016-03-19T23:06:17.665-07:00<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiH1fVhx-dKVsYvik9rn0hRCkEAl5aDMrH5mnpMP6puPzJKIiGzZfRXFe-F08zIvGfFEGzSRkBNsTtvb9CsnAxqGxGS_dGBcRK2X0z6G_pZrZPt_OUurNI6gZGDtx-Jz73ty4jHyalLL9LA/s1600/IMG_4066.JPG" imageanchor="1" ><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiH1fVhx-dKVsYvik9rn0hRCkEAl5aDMrH5mnpMP6puPzJKIiGzZfRXFe-F08zIvGfFEGzSRkBNsTtvb9CsnAxqGxGS_dGBcRK2X0z6G_pZrZPt_OUurNI6gZGDtx-Jz73ty4jHyalLL9LA/s400/IMG_4066.JPG" height="400" width="400"/></a><br />
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I am your quiet place, <br />
you are my wild.<br />
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I am your water wings,<br />
you are my deep.<br />
I am your open arms,<br />
you are my running leap.<br />
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from <i>You Are My I Love You</i>, by Maryann Cusimano Lovevera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-29576485207363677902015-03-14T21:40:00.002-07:002015-03-14T21:40:39.489-07:0031I went to Seattle (alone!!) for my birthday last weekend and stayed with by best friend for three glorious days. We did nothing at all worth mentioning or photographing, too lazy even to leave the house in time to get the pedicures we had sort-of talked about. I loved every minute. I think it's going to be a good year.vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-70314207442742718382015-02-06T11:23:00.000-08:002015-02-15T15:52:32.112-08:00happy birthday, gorgeous boyTo think, the wrinkly red bundle who couldn't even hold his own head up and was always poking himself in the eye can now stand up and run around the house, grinning like crazy and waving his arms in the air. I'm not often sentimental, but that gets me. I am really tired but having a great time being his mama. He is smart and funny and charming, and I love watching him grow and change. <br />
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Favorite Foods<br />
-frozen gogurts<br />
-frozen raspberries<br />
-organic cheese doodles<br />
-peach/pineapple/orange cups<br />
-chocolate<br />
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Favorite Activities<br />
-listening to music/dancing/twerking<br />
-going for walks/hikes with mama and daddy<br />
-staring at/stalking bigger kids at the park<br />
-reading books<br />
-stealing cell phones<br />
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Favorite Places<br />
-home<br />
-Lake Elizabeth<br />
-grandma's house<br />
-anywhere with french fries<br />
-anywhere with lots of people to stare at<br />
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vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-25338528025283184832015-01-18T12:10:00.003-08:002015-01-18T12:10:49.301-08:00motivesI believe that it is possible to be happy and fulfilled without children, and I absolutely believe that a woman can live a meaningful life without ever being a mother. But for me, having my son is what changed my mind about living. It made me not just <i>want </i>to live, for the first time ever, but to live the best possible life. To set goals and pursue them, for real, not just say something that sounded nice and then dwell on all the reasons why it was impossible. The goals I have for my life now still seem big and far away, but I know that I can reach them, and I am determined to show my son that adversity does not guarantee failure and delays do not equal defeat. <br />
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I won't ever say, "If I can do it, you can do it." I don't know what you can do; only you know that. But I have room in my heart for you, and for your struggles, because of how I chose to deal with mine. vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-77772133766929843912015-01-06T10:41:00.000-08:002015-01-07T15:49:13.212-08:00freedom of/in/from religion<blockquote><br />
"What's God?"<br />
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"You know when you want something real bad, and you close your eyes and wish for it? God's the guy that ignores you."<br />
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<small><i>The Island (2005</i>)</small></blockquote><br />
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I have been pretty torn over the question of whether I want my son to grow up with or without a religion. Phil was raised Catholic but has not quite settled into anything as an adult. I grew up in a non-denominational church; Sunday School and bible stories, starring roles in Christmas and Easter choirs. I was a youth leader for several years, only ever listened to Christian music, went away to Australia to attend an evengelical school for six months when I was twenty. I know the bible fairly well, can have a conversation/heated argument with just about anyone about it if necessary, and I think it's good and useful knowledge to have. Knowledge I want my son to have as well, should similar conversations/arguments arise for him. <br />
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In my life now I've thrown out every religious rule that I used to try to follow so carefully, save the only one I believe really matters: love one another. In my deepest heart I believe that there is a god, that Jesus loves us and that his love drove him here, to do something exquisite and unlikely and compelling. But when I needed it most, when my heart broke open and my mind flooded with dark memories long shut away, and the carefully crafted facade of my pretty life crumbled around me, the Church failed me--and with second and third and fourth chances, never improved--so I am done with church. I went to a service for the first time in years, during our Christmas trip to WA, to please Phil and for Hunter to have a new experience. I did not enjoy it, but thankfully it was pretty innocuous since they sang Christmas carols instead of worship songs and the message was direct contemplation of scripture, not just some guy telling us what's what and propping up his opinions with a bible verse here and there. I handled it, but I was glad to leave. <br />
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I want Hunter to be educated so that he can make his own decisions. If he decides that God and Jesus and all the rules are legit, or that Buddha or Muhammad and Allah know better what they're about, or that the Universe is one and life is inherently beautiful and meaningful, or that the Universe is one and we are all in entropy, or any combination of any of the above, I will love him exactly the same.<br />
vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-30243764064086975362014-12-28T22:21:00.000-08:002015-01-06T12:28:40.746-08:00a little reindeer<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg8XkWnEeHliUKn5asVH6HcQvHZyz6zV-rEHEkmKKpYeAewYYuUZzMFCfFyWQ45sOrxRt8wzCNz3CrhxDSazX6uztGb5E70YRXVed_atNmPOgugMIGEPeFEbolc_EtwGuq_b20RupockX-Z/s1600/Hunter's%2BFirst%2BChristmas.jpg" imageanchor="1" ><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg8XkWnEeHliUKn5asVH6HcQvHZyz6zV-rEHEkmKKpYeAewYYuUZzMFCfFyWQ45sOrxRt8wzCNz3CrhxDSazX6uztGb5E70YRXVed_atNmPOgugMIGEPeFEbolc_EtwGuq_b20RupockX-Z/s640/Hunter's%2BFirst%2BChristmas.jpg" height="500" width="600"/></a><br />
vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-82302281725706161822014-12-24T21:53:00.000-08:002015-01-18T09:19:42.610-08:00the true story of ChristmasP: Who can tell us the true story of Christmas? The real story?<br />
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R: Oh, me! Me! Ok, so FIRST of all, there were these three wise men. And they saw an awesome star. Not just a regular star, it was, like, a really special star. A super big awesome star, very bright. So they followed it because they wanted to see what it was for. It was for a special baby. And they had presents but I can't remember what they were. <br />
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A: I know! Beauty, and good dancing, and... and everyone to love you.<br />
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R: No, no, no. That's Sleeping Beauty! Ugh. <br />
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A: Oh.<br />
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R: Ok wait, I remember now, there was some gold. And Franken-stince, and... Merl. I don't know what that is. I don't know why they brought that. But anyway the baby was born in... uh... Gotham.<br />
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V: Wait, was the baby Batman?<br />
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R: No!! It was baby Jesus. Oh yeah, so it was Bethleham, not Gotham. He was born in Bethleham in a barn and the animals let him sleep on their hay to stay warm. And he didn't even cry. And there were cows and sheep and stuff eating the hay but baby Jesus was just sleeping and he didn't care. And shepherds came too and angels and the wise men brought their presents for the little baby boy.<br />
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A: The baby was a <i>boy?!</i> What?!<br />
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R: Yes, duh! Jesus is a boy so he was a boy baby. Like baby Hunter is a boy. And that's the story of Christmas. I think.<br />
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vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-24495321832322865192014-12-01T21:38:00.000-08:002014-12-10T21:45:21.557-08:00Latergram: November<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNFPpjZyKmimqu50CCDgWvxOkVzTk0cI7AXDV35n2nJOogUbg9i_MzTSwyr5lSniAuLkGy-0C6ApGfT6ki56Q9dFlDJVPCKpQOOySYur92ydizyHUFqyVC1Dz-WBbgpYRGVn2KdhZETvT7/s1600/IMG_3411.JPG" imageanchor="1" ><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNFPpjZyKmimqu50CCDgWvxOkVzTk0cI7AXDV35n2nJOogUbg9i_MzTSwyr5lSniAuLkGy-0C6ApGfT6ki56Q9dFlDJVPCKpQOOySYur92ydizyHUFqyVC1Dz-WBbgpYRGVn2KdhZETvT7/s320/IMG_3411.JPG" height=190 width=190 /></a> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsWb5RbiiTHkALOQm0o9aL2Wm_6xPnrRBfdYY-gzDD0CssNxwEvRbJdapNCAIvmW57LhI4XCfgeEpRoskCx0FcuUaTCfxgT2N_xN6LnD88LGaeGDqxyK6xqLqGEvnoSYpJn1IsDdmJnRRL/s1600/IMG_3462.JPG" imageanchor="1" ><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsWb5RbiiTHkALOQm0o9aL2Wm_6xPnrRBfdYY-gzDD0CssNxwEvRbJdapNCAIvmW57LhI4XCfgeEpRoskCx0FcuUaTCfxgT2N_xN6LnD88LGaeGDqxyK6xqLqGEvnoSYpJn1IsDdmJnRRL/s320/IMG_3462.JPG" height=190 width=190 /></a> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgPgQL9BhLphtDo47UT5EgAbmWjiO0x1DWfx9FncsON_kleiX2xvmB4_aXWj0QCJnf7YHmEBYePCr763NEIJRrn3upxKzKQbS48VhU7N3PKgdPC5IZ1_WDY42s01ZqfXb59AW-Y9xICOHfS/s1600/IMG_3461.JPG" imageanchor="1" ><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgPgQL9BhLphtDo47UT5EgAbmWjiO0x1DWfx9FncsON_kleiX2xvmB4_aXWj0QCJnf7YHmEBYePCr763NEIJRrn3upxKzKQbS48VhU7N3PKgdPC5IZ1_WDY42s01ZqfXb59AW-Y9xICOHfS/s320/IMG_3461.JPG" height=190 width=190 /></a><br />
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vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-27228469583776706612014-11-14T10:24:00.001-08:002015-01-06T12:26:14.998-08:00like a girl<iframe width="560" height="315" src="//www.youtube.com/embed/XjJQBjWYDTs" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe><br />
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vera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4821454066221757654.post-55280491842216005852014-11-12T11:30:00.001-08:002014-11-12T11:30:40.013-08:00kicking buttI was going to say that first-time parenting, working, and being in school all at the same time is seriously kicking my butt, and that's why I'm so tired... but then I decided that I am seriously kicking butt at it, rather, and THAT is why I am so tired. If I stopped caring about any part of all this, I would definitely get more rest. <br />
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So. Now I feel more empowered.<br />
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Today I am thankful for my busy, needy, beautiful son, and the way he has inspired me to work harder than ever to make our lives better. xovera katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00076775857517689971noreply@blogger.com0